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Thursday, August 13, 2015

Have You Ever Wanted To Cry After A Hair Cut?

Have you ever wanted to cry after a hair cut?

You take them a photo  . . .
You question them after the first . . .
no turning back cut.

And you leave with a hair cut that is 
three inches shorter
than the photo you took in.

Trying to 
Keep Smiling.
Your blogging sister,
Connie :)

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  1. Connie, all I can say is, it grows back. Sorry to hear about your misadventure - you'd think these people wielding scissors would be professionals, right? Maybe you'll find a cool way to wear your new style using Product!! And coloured hair gel. Maybe you'll go wiiiild! Keep smiling.

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    1. Hi Melanie, I'll keep smiling, at least when I'm not looking into the mirror, LOL Like you said it grows back . . . not quick enough, but it will get there:)

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  2. Oh Connie. We have all been there. I'll bet it looks cuter than you think it does.

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    1. Oh, I stopped the person cutting it and the owner came over looked at it and said to this person, "didn't you even look at the photo she brought in?'
      Then she took over and salvaged it the best she could. It will grow back . . . it will grow back . . . I know, I know that it will grow back. That is going to be my theme song for a while :)

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  3. Dear sweet Connie. Don't cry. Keep smiling. It will grow out, and fast! Our hair keeps on growing, thankfully! I have been where your are and just felt sick. I bet you look beautiful, it's just a change. Hairdressers with scissors scare me to death. They don't know when to stop! I once had my long hair cut and permed...36 inches cut off. I could hardly look in the mirror. It will be okay. Love, Henny

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    1. Hi Henny, thanks for your encouragement. I know that it will grow back . . . not quick enough for me, but it will get there. I don't even want it as long as it was, but my face and personality are just not suited for really short hair. I think it looks wonderful on most people, just not me.

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  4. Oh YES, just a few times...it always grows back! LOL
    deb

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    1. Yes, and I am so happy that it does. It will probably be January before it is the length of the photo that I took in.

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  5. Oh, Connie. I hope they didn't cut your pretty long locks off!! and yes, I have cried after a hair cut, more than once! But thank goodness, it grows back fast.

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    1. Hi Dorothy, I wanted it mid-length, just an inch above the shoulders. It is now two inches above my chin, but praise God it will grow :)

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  6. Oh yeah. My last haircut, I kept saying, "wispy." Not what I got. At least it grows back.

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    1. I don't understand when you take a photo in with you, how they can come up with something so much different.
      I should have had my nine year old granddaughter cut it:)

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  7. Yep, something like this has happened to me...maybe not 3 whole inches shorter though. I will never forget the time I got my first perm in a solon when I was in my 20's...my hair was burned off at the roots (not all) but I had "nubs" all over my head ...kinky curly and felt like doll hair. It was horrible :(

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    1. Oh Debby, that must have been terrible for you. I think that the younger you are the worse it seems. That least at my age, I know that in about four months it should start looking like the photo I took in.

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  8. Yes I have and I am so sorry that this happened to you. I know its only hair and that it will grow out, but I am sure today, those words just don't help. Hope you can work with it or cover it with a hat. Its just a bad feeling when it happens and you have to live with it for so long. Sorry for the bad day.

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    1. I know that I'll feel better in a few days . . . at least I hope so. I'm just an old Plain Jane and my hair has always been the one thing that helped frame this mundane face of mine. Funny how we put so much stock in your hair.

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  9. Oh, Connie! I am sorry you feel sad about your hair cut. 'Sending you a hug! {{{Connie}}} -Marci @ Stone Cottage Adventures

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    1. You are so sweet, thank you . . . I needed that :)

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  10. Yep - twice. And this last time was just a few weeks ago. It was a new girl (the girl who usually does my hair has a broken arm!) and she cut my hair not only too short, but a bad cut on one side, too. (I have a lot of layers.) I had another beautician friend tell me that in 2 weeks, I wouldn't even be able to tell that it was cut badly due to the new growth - and she was right. I also looked at it this way...I have two friends with cancer right now, one with breast cancer and the other with lymphoma - and both of them have completely lost their hair due to chemo. So I tried to keep this in mind as I thought, "At least I HAVE hair!" You'll be back to smiling in no time. :-)

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    1. Hi Melanie, Thank You! I needed to hear that and to put this in the right perspective. It will grow back and it will be lovely again. Hair really should not be something to take up so much of my energy thinking about. Now, I'm getting off this computer and starting dinner. I might even have a little while to work on my quilt. Thanks again . . . you gave me that little kick in the butt, dose of reality that I needed :)

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  11. there have been several hair cuts over the years that I have not been happy with. I've gotten to the point any more though that if it's not what I was expecting it's no big deal, it's only hair and it will grow back :) Sorry you didn't get what you wanted. You would think with a picture they would have gotten it right

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    1. You would certainly think so . . . I mean, they are in the business of hair, right? The other side is. . . it will grow back and I'm tired of being upset, LOL.

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  12. Yes. Once I had my long blond (to my bra strap) hair cut in layers and given a body wave. I wanted to be able to wear it in soft waves, shoulder length. I walked out looking like Harpo Marx. I'm not even exaggerating. Harpo Freakin' Marx. To top it off I was pregnant. That bad haircut was 30 years ago and I still shudder when I think of it.

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    1. Oh, poor you! . . . Harpo Marx, now that is bad. I on the other hand, look like that little boy that advertises Dutch Boy paint, LOL.

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  13. Oh Lord, yes! I take photos all the time and after about the third trip there, the cut looks nothing like the picture. But, it does grow back so I've learned to roll with it.

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    1. Yep, that's all you can do . . . and I don't like spending too much time being up-set, LOL.

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  14. Oh Connie, I have been there! I think we all have. I am sorry, I know it's hair and it will grow back, but it stinks in the meantime. I am sure you still look lovely!!

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    1. Oh, you are so sweet . . . lovely is not the word to describe how I look, but it's okay . . . time will take care of it, and I can't waste anymore energy being up-set, LOL.

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  15. Oh dear Connie. I'm sorry you had a Very Bad Hair Day!! Hair cuts make such a difference. I guess the only thing I can say is that after a short hair cut, your hair will thank you for it eventually as it will grow back stronger, and more lustrous.I once had about a year of bad hair cuts until I found a good cutter.I guess like Melanie above, we have to be thankful we even have hair! Go wild..yes..have some frosting put in!!

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    1. Hi Judy, I have natural frosting in my hair, and I kind of like the gray. You are so right about Melanie's comment . . . it was exactly what I needed to hear and I'm grateful that she was brave enough to say it. We all need a dose of reality once in a while to get us back on the right track :)

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  16. Oh Connie...sorry to hear you had a bad experience at the hairdressers......um, I used to be a hairdresser and I loved when the customer brought in a picture. It was always a challenge to make the person look just like the picture even if the hair did not flow the same way the picture did. I usually came pretty close. But there were those days that nothing went right.....the lady never came back. It's all a learning process. One good thing....the hair grows back. I don't go to hairdressers too much....I do my own hair and if I cut it wrong.....just wait till it grows some and cut again. Today I cut my bangs.....amazing how much a difference that even makes. If we lived closer I'd come cut your hair, but alas I am in Wisconsin. Have a good day despite the bad cut. When I was younger and went to the hairdresser...they always thought they did a great job....but I would come home and redo it cause I did not like it...guess that was the hairdresser coming out in me even back then. I don't know why hair is such a big thing to us.....but as we get older and greyer....it's our crown of glory and everyone looks at our crown, down they????

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    1. Hi Louise, I was really afraid that my husband would say, "What did you do?" Instead as always, he was a sweetheart. Isn't love great! I don't know if you read Melanie's comment, but it struck a cord in my heart . . . and I'm over it. Hair grows back, hallelujah :)

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  17. HI Connie, you have struck a chord with so many of us!! My last bad haircut was 2 weeks before my daughter's wedding, and I was so specific as to how much to take off (only a trim!) and was devastated.It's grown and I have a new hairdresser and I'm happy again! Wishing you speedy hairgrowing days :-)

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    1. Raewyn, Isn't it just so true that these things happen just before something that will require you to have your photo taken. Pictures that become memories . . . it's almost comical when you think about it.

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  18. I solved that problem by cutting my own. If the wind is blowing outside, I cut it with my head hanging down and the wind blows the loose hair away.

    It will grown. Bless your heart.

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    1. Oh my goodness, you painted a picture in my mind of you hanging out of a window in the wind cutting your hair . . . I want to make a drawing :)

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  19. Connie, You know that old saying, "the difference between a good hair cut and a bad one??? Two weeks !!" Reminds me of a fellow I worked with..he would say things like, " I've cut it off twice and it's still too short. " Just trying to make you smile. I am about ready to cut my own hair...and believe me that would not be good. Take care. Bless your heart, xoxo,Susie

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    1. Hi Susie, sometimes I thing we should not just show them the photo, but ask them what they see when they look at it . . . this young man did not see the same hair style that I saw . . . that is for sure.

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  20. I'm sorry Connie. There are few things that are harder on our self esteem than bad hair. I don't know if this is an encouragement but I would like to share that when I was 39 (23 years ago) I had breast cancer. A few months into treatment on Christmas Day, I had to shave my head as there wasn't enough hair left to even attempt to comb it anymore. I discovered that I had a really cute shaped head and that I looked quite dashing in a headscarf and hat. After treatments were over and my hair started to grow in I learned there were a lot of different ways my hair could look as it grew in and most of them turned out to be cute even if they weren't what I would have chosen for myself. I bet your hair looks cuter than you think and fortunately in just a week or two it will already take on a new shape. Keep your chin up girl. And if all else fails find a cute hat. You always have such a positive attitude about life that you inspire me and I know that you will overcome. :)

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    1. Thank you for the encouragement. The initial shock has worn off and I feel silly for putting so much importance on my hair. That's not to say I like what happened . . . I don't and I can not wait for it to grow another two inches, but in the list of what is important in my life, my hair is way down on the list. I'm grateful that I have hair and that it will grow . . . Oh, and I do have several cute hats :)

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  21. I'm so sorry, Connie. I know it will grow back, but in the meantime, it's an awful feeling to look into the mirror and not like what you see. I've certainly been there. Once I went for a cut and it was so awful that the next day I went to another hairdresser and got a much shorter, but beautifully shaped cut and I wore it short for years. Yes, it will grow.

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    1. Hi Lorrie . . . yes it will grow and after a month or two I will have forgotten all about it . . . that's where having an aging memory can be a God sent, LOL.

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  22. I have cried over haircuts! One was so bad I actually really, truly wore a hat for about 3 months. People would compliment myhats and I would just grin and bear it. It was just horrible. Another time I wanted a perm and cut. Well, over a period of at least 3 hours she cut, permed, cut some more, styled, cut some more, styled - it just went on and on. Other customers came and went and the salon got quieter and quieter as the other stylist were just gawking. I felt like a prisoner is my only excuse for not running out the door. I do not have much luck with hair professionals.

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    1. I do not either . . . that's probably one of the reasons I normally wear my hair in a longer style, but every couple of years I think I want a change. So, off I go at the mercy of a stranger. If I could do today over, I would try cutting it myself :) I used to do that before injuring my hand . . . but maybe I still could. I've just not tried since then. It will grow back and I have several cute hats . . . and my health . . . and plenty of reasons to smile :)

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  23. Haircuts that made me cry, No...a "body" perm before my senior prom, so I could have thicker, fuller hair that then made me look like I stuck my finger in a light socket, yes that did make me cry, a lot. I could not fix it. I tried ironing my hair and washed it repeatedly. Nothing worked. My hair took really well to that perm and it probably took a year to finally look somewhat normal. I never got another perm and have just made do with my flat, thinning hair. I also found a really good hairdresser and have followed her to every salon she has worked for. Her haircuts are not cheap but I love the way she makes me look and feel. My aunt went to a salon once and she had almost no hair left by the time the manager got done fixing her hair. I think almost everyone in my family has had a horrible cut at one time. It does grow back.

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    1. I agree, it has happen to all of us and most of us many times in our lives. Hallelujah! Hair grows back . . . and the initial shock of my hair being this short is slowly wearing off. That and the fact that I just don't want to waste anymore energy on being up-set about it. Of course that's easy to say sitting here, when I go into the bathroom and catch myself in the mirror . . . well, let's just say I'm getting over it, LOL. There are so many worst things in life than bad hair :)

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  24. I am sure that you still look beautiful and it will grow back. It will be stronger and healthier. Take care xxxx

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    1. Thanks Fran . . . you are a sweetie:)

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  25. Everyone has always got a bad hair story but it doesn't make you feel any better, at least you can laugh about it a little now. Sending you a hug.

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    1. You're right, everyone does . . . I was surprised at the response to this post at first . . . but like you said, we've all had them:)

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  26. Yes I have had that happen, I have also had a hair cut that when she was done I said did you do anything I can't even tell a difference from when I came in here. Ever since that time I have cut my own hair

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    1. Good for you! I used to cut my own, but since my hand injury I have been afraid to try. Maybe it's time to get over my fear, LOL. I may not see to get in perfectly even, but I never cut too much :)

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  27. My daughter has corkscrew curls and as a child she hated them more than anything. At 9, she begged me to let her cut her hair which she wore almost waist length. I didn't know that she thought her hair would be straight when it was cut. She looked adorable with a mop full of red curls, just like Annie, but she hated it. She looked at me and the hairdresser and said, "put it back, right now!" Obviously that didn't happen and it was several years before she was happy again.

    Now she spends a fortune to have it chemically straightened!

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    1. Isn't that the way it goes. The curly tops want straight and the straight want curly :)

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  28. PHOTOS PLEASE! You are SUCH a tease, Connie, leaving us up in the air like that lol lol!!! I'm sure it isn't so bad really. Anyway at least it will grow again! I don't go very often and just get them to trim it off and re-layer it a bit, usually when I'm having a perm to get my curls back. Last time I went and got it coloured with wacky colours but they were a bit timid and it didn't quite come out how I wanted, so I've been doing it myself since and I'm getting lots of positive comments as well as some pretty funny looks lol! I tell them it's one of the side effects of my chemo which usually raises a laugh, and one of the nurses today said that people will start saying "What are you on? Can I get some too?" Lol!! Have a look at this: https://www.blogger.com/profile/00028185699225457125 I've just updated my profile pic as the other was quite a few years out of date! Thanks for your lovely visit and I'm glad you enjoyed my spoily day post. As for having a good weekend, I can't guarantee that as I had my 5th chemo today and I'm feeling lousy but I shall make the best of it. Hope you have a lovely weekend.

    Shoshi x

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    1. Here's wishing you a very speed chemo recovery. God bless you.

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  29. How right you are Connie about people not being satisfied with what they've got! My hair has a slight natural wave but what I want is CURLZZZ and lots of them! I get it permed every 6 months but it's not been done this year because of being ill. Part of my recovery celebrations next year will be to get my curlz back lol!

    Shoshi

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    1. That will be a special day for you . . . here's wishing for the best perm ever:)

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  30. Oh Connie! I'm sorry your cut didn't turn out like you wanted it to. I'm sure you are still just as beautiful as ever though...just with shorter locks! Good thing about hair is...it grows back. Too fast in my case! I usually look like a chia pet...lol! Wavy/curly hair in Florida humidity! Hugs, Vicky

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    1. Hi Vicky, I think it was the initial shock that truly got me and the fact that he cut so much more off than I wanted. I've decided that I am making a mountain out of a mole hill, so I'll do what I can with what I have and wait of the growing process to get me where I want to be . . . I"m still smiling, I won't let them steal way my smile :)

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  31. Hi Connie, I am sorry that you got a bad haircut. On the other hand in this hot weather it may turn out to be a blessing and after it grows out in a couple weeks it will probably look lovely on you. I have gotten bad cuts but I have just wavy hair, what they call finger waves, and unless it gets cut the way finger waves should be cut it doesn't go naturally very well. Always grows out though and yes I have whacked away at the top and Bob at the bottom before! Your positive attitude and lovely smile will go great with it. Nancy

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    1. Hi Nancy, you are right about it feeling better in this heat . . . i've got to think about all the positives.
      Another is that it should take 1/4 the time to dry and style :)
      Yes, I still have my smile . . . they can't steal that away :)

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  32. Oh Connie...I know exactly how you feel. About a month ago...I went to get my hair cut and I took a photo of what I wanted. Needless to say...the cut I got was nothing like what I wanted and my hair was way shorter than I've ever had it. I have thick hair...which I love and she thinned my hair when I ask her not to. I cried when I got home. I'm just now being about to style my hair to wear it where it looks okay. I will never go back to that salon.
    hugs,
    Cindy

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    1. Cindy, it sounds like we went through the very same experience. Photo and all. You would think that a photo would speak a thousand words, right . . . I mean they are "Hair People" they should be able to see want you are wanting from the photo. We don't expect to be as pretty as the model in the picture, but we do expect our hair to be cut in the style she is wearing.

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  33. Hi - sorry to hear about your recent hair mishap - thanks for sharing though - I am currently recovering from one myself! I've never had much hair luck...still can't shake that home-perm afro nightmare from 3rd grade! LOL Hoping for fast recovery for you as the cut grows out♥ ~*~Lisa

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    1. Thank you Lisa :) I'm playing around with it and I am surprised that as short as it is, I can still get about three different hair styles from it. That is making it much better :)

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  34. I have gotten so many bad haircuts at the salon that I can not remember them all. I made a really bold move a number of years back that I have been thankful for ever since. On the third date with my new boyfriend, I let him give me a haircut. Crazy right? I had been on a rant about how I hated getting a haircut, they never do what I ask for at the salon and that it was so expensive. It had been over 8 months since my last haircut. He offered to cut it for me and I said OK. He used the really good hair shears, sectioned and pinned up my hair and then took off just an inch as I asked him to. After he finished, I dashed to the mirror to check his work. He gave me a great haircut. I have not been back to the salon since and woul not evn if it was free. He trims it every other month, and he has never given me a bad haircut. It saves me hundreds a year and I love the attention of having him pour me a glass of wine, cape me and comb my hair before he cuts it. I am spoiled now.

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